Who knew that postpartum would take it’s toll on me so late in the game?!?! I wouldn’t say it’s depression, but it is some kind of funk. When you’re a stay-at-home mom, who’s also still working, it can be quite overwhelming and very lonely. Everyone says to join mom groups, go on playdates, etc., however, it’s not as simple as just going out and doing that. I’ve done a few here and there, but It’s been well over a year since Kelsey’s been born, and I have never had a day to myself or away to reset.
My husband and I have talked about it, and we both needed to take the time to take care of us, me, him, and together as a family. Since I’ve been in such a funk and borderline terrible to be around, I got to take advantage of the first one. I thought about going out and getting drunk with friends, but then thought about it again and realized that I really just need to hang out by myself and take care of me! And guess what? It was so refreshing and really got me out of my comfort zone.
At first, I just went and did things that I normally would do on my own, then I got gutsy and went out and had lunch by myself, went to the movies by myself, then had dinner by myself. It really wasn’t all that bad, other than I fell asleep on the person next to me at the movies…. not my finest moment, but I guess I really needed the sleep. I even got to sleep on our boat by myself and didn’t have to wake up in the middle of the night to take care of the kiddos.
The moral of the story here – It doesn’t make you a bad mom or parent if you need to take a break from family to reset. You’re actually doing everyone a disservice if you don’t. If you don’t take care of yourself, and you’re not happy with yourself, then you’re not going to be able to give your family 100% of you. How you feel reads out loudly and it will project on to others. I hope this encourages you all to take some time for yourself, and like they say – “you do you!” I’d love to see your comments with some things that you do to take care of yourself. I’m going to need some ideas for my next Mom Break.